A Woman's Worth

My bestest friend in the whole wide world (lol) wrote this. I wanted to share this, so much truth to it! I pray this touches someone's heart!

Do you know your value? What is your worth? Have you devalued yourself for someone who was really unable to afford your worth? Christ paid a very expensive price for you! Why have you given yourself away, sold yourself short for something or someone unworthy? I’m speaking of things such as a so called expensive meal at Red Lobster, a “sweet” gesture of opening the door (something he is supposed to do anyway), sweet NOTHINGS being whispered in your ear. To some it all up, COUNTERFIT LOVE! Or do you simply give yourself away to fill the emptiness or heal the brokenness inside. Have you sold yourself short because you don’t know your worth? Have you sold yourself short in relationships by tolerating foolishness, knowing you could do better? How many, “I’m sorry” EXCUSES have you accepted? At some point you need to take heed to what the man is telling you, he is SORRY!!! You deserve to be treated, loved, and spoken to in a certain way.

I especially want to touch on the area in which I notice that most of my ladies are devaluing themselves, S-E-X! “I plead with you to give your bodies to God. Let them be a living and Holy sacrifice-the kind He will accept. When you think of what He has done for you, is this too much to ask?...” Romans 12:1-2

“God purchased you at a high price. Don’t be enslaved by the world; be ye not the servants of men” I Corinthians 7:23

God showed you your value and worth when He sent His son to die on the cross for YOU! Why then would you devalue yourself after God has shown you how valuable you truly are? “He paid for you with the precious blood of Christ, the sinless spotless Lamb of God” I Peter 1:19

This may sound very “old school” but it is a BEAUTIFUL thing in the eyes of the Lord, any guy who wants you should pay the most expensive price for you, and in the eyes of God that price is marriage. NOT, telling you how much he “loves” you, how he wants to marry you one day, or spoiling you with things. The price is placing a ring on your finger FIRST, and making a vow before God to love you as Christ loved the church. Your body is not the Goodwill, stop taking donations, and make him pay FIRST!

Some people think that “no sex before marriage” is an old rule and way of thinking. FALSE!!! If you are having sex before marriage you are having “ILLEGAL SEX” God expects us to take His word and apply it to our lives! Enough with this calling ourselves Christians and not living like one, (I’ll touch on that more in another note).

Let’s take a look at what the word has to say about it. “But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.” I Corinthians 7:2

Uh oh, wait a minute! The Bible says to fulfill your HUSBAND’S sexual needs! Not the boy you met at the party last night or the guy you’ve been dating for five minutes or ten years, or your baby daddy, or the guy you plan on marrying, but your HUSBAND!!!

“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”         I Corinthians 6:18-20

“God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin.” I Thessalonians 4:3

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”Hebrews 13:4

God takes fornication very serious, not only because He knows your worth but He knows the awesome price He paid for you. This letter was not written to condemn anyone, because we all make mistakes, Lord knows I have. I simply want to expose how comfortable we are in our sin, while calling ourselves Christians, and how precious you ladies are. Now, I know some of you may be reading this thinking, “Well it’s too late for me.” ”I am no virgin.” “Shoot I just finished fornicating five minutes ago.” “I’m shacking up with my boyfriend right now.” The awesome thing about God is that He knows us and our value. He loves us so much that He sent His only son to die for our sins because we would mess up sometimes. Therefore, faith in the precious blood of Jesus can cleanse you from any and all of your wrong doings. Romans 8:38 says that there is nothing that can separate us from His love. You can find some more encouraging scriptures in; John 3:16, Romans 3:25-26, Colossians 1:21, I Peter 1:19, and Romans 5:8-9 (and if you need prayer concerning any of this please feel free to inbox me). So for those of you who are living this immoral lifestyle, there is hope, but I do not want you to misunderstand what I am saying concerning forgiveness. The blood of Jesus was not made to be used as a green card to continue sinning. Example: “I’ll have sex with this dude tonight and then I’ll just ask God for forgiveness when I’m done.” NO MA’AM, IT DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY!!! Proverbs 28:13 says,” People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess AND TURN FROM THEM, they will receive mercy.”

I want to leave you with this love story; it’s the story of Jacob and Rachael, Genesis 29. Jacob worked  for Rachael’s father for SEVEN years to receive her hand in marriage, and even after being tricked into marrying her sister, he was still willing to work another SEVEN years to receive her hand in marriage. Let’s stop making ourselves so easy that these guys don’t even consider putting in work. Make it known that you will not be sleeping with him until he marries you, and stick to it! I just want to encourage you all today. Operate in your worth, don’t settle for less, and stop devaluing yourselves to meet someone’s cheap budget. Remember God loves you and He wants the best for you!

-Vania M.